I received a copy of "Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couple's Journey To Freedom From Pornography" written by Jen and Craig Ferguson, from netgalley.com for the purpose of generating a review. Italicized quotes are from the book. The opinions expressed here are my own.

If you’re a lady and you’ve spent any time in a local Bible study, you have a favorite Beth Moore study. Am I right?

For me, that study is Inheritance. Starting in Genesis, a very good place to start, Beth teaches us about the inheritance God has prepared for all of us believers... since the beginning.

One of the key lessons I took from this study is that nothing in our lives goes unused by God. It’s all a part of our divine inheritance. He can take the most difficult circumstances, pull us right out of them and then turn around and use them for our good and His glory.

If I could sit down with Craig and Jen Ferguson over a cup of coffee, we could discuss this concept together. I might even suggest they go through this Bible study. 

As a married couple, they lived through some scary times. Hard, humbling times. Times when I'm sure they wondered if even God could make something beautiful out of the mess. In their book, “Pure Eyes, Clean Heart,” they tell their story in its entirety.

As an offering. 

Jen discovered a little secret early on in her marriage to Craig. He entered their union addicted to pornography. They entered into a painful cycle where Craig would say he’d try to quit viewing pornography. He’d fail. Jen would find out. 

Throughout the whole book, they tell of their life events. First, from her perspective. Followed by his. 

A brave retelling.

I read this book for the purpose of review. I know next to nothing about pornography addiction. However, as I read it, I realized the lessons apply to many scenarios. The Scripture both authors shared could speak to me and my circumstances too.

Any addiction. Any fallen person.

I have a lot of Jen in me. Read the following quote and see if you can relate:

“Somehow, I had fooled myself into believing that becoming the porn police was going to ensure successful recovery. Somehow, I had fallen into the trap of believing that if I said and did the right things, healing would take place.”

Truthful confessions like these were the real beauty of the book for me. As women, we have to learn how to communicate with our husbands and not belittle or mother or nag. Jen had to learn that too. 

“In my attempt to control, I forgot to surrender.”

Men must also learn how to keep communicating when they’d rather escape into a less stressful reality. They have to be honest with their wife when they struggle. 

“Since trust is crucial to a relationship, I responded. I found myself wanting to do more and talk to Jen more about what was going on with me. I started sharing with her about when I felt tempted. Our conversations evolved from worrying about what to do about temptation to discussing strategies to help me overcome it when it actually came.”

But most of all, we have to let the Holy Spirit teach us those things about ourselves that keep us from having a fulfilling marriage. We must realize our need for Him in this most important relationship.

For those struggling with a pornography addiction, click on the book title above and order this book. It’s that important. Even if pornography is not your stronghold, I discovered many timeless lessons in this book.

Craig and Jennifer, I know without any doubt that God will use your story for good. It’s part of your divine inheritance. Keep trusting Him to use your past to grow you spiritually and glorify Him.

In your own words:

“God is so faithful not to waste one bit of our experiences...”